ABSTRACT
As a technique that is appropriate for practically all clients, balancing caring and daring is equally relevant to death and non-death losses. However, when the loss is experienced as traumatic by the client, therapists should not press the “daring” agenda too quickly. Therapists who present themselves as secure bases are able to provide their clients with security and trust while at the same time challenging them to develop themselves further. The Dual-Process Model describes the oscillation or pendulum swing from being focused on the loss to being focused on restoration. The therapist stayed on the side of being focused on loss and became increasingly daring by asking about details that the client was inclined to leave out. Clients will progress at their own pace. Sometimes, a lot of endurance is required from therapists for them to stay present and provide caring, especially when the direction that the client should be moving seems very obvious to the therapist.
