A supervisor on a course I once ran told how one of his team had come to him. The team member was going through a bad patch in his marriage and this was spilling over into his working life. The supervisor tried to be sympathetic, but his basic message was, ‘Pull yourself together’. The team member went home that evening, took a drug overdose and died. He could no longer cope with his stress. The supervisor was left with the question of how he could have coped better with the situation that was presented to him.