ABSTRACT
For women, aggressive fantasy can act as a point of breakthrough in the realms of relationship and agency. Of specific interest to me is the point where relationship and agency appear to clash, leaving women with what appears to be a choice between the two. I argue that a capacity to hold and direct aggressive energy for the good of relationship is a significant human achievement, and that an increasing capacity to do so correlates with an increasing capacity to build and sustain lively relationships without compromising oneself or one’s values.1
