ABSTRACT

My name is Kaye. I found out my husband of 39 years was gay when he was arrested for soliciting sex from a male police ocer. He then revealed that for more than 12 years he had a sexual relationship with a man who was practically a member of our family. at nearly put me over the edge. Aer 6 months of shock, I got myself together and moved out. I have seen four therapists since the coming out. None of these therapists seemed to realize the absolute devastation that resulted from this revelation. Self-esteem, self-preservation, trust that the sun will come up in the morning-all of these are gone. I am 63 years old and feel like an infant, trying to rebuild a personality and a life from scratch.