chapter  9
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Dependency and independency with particular reference to counselling

In the counselling relationship there will first of all be a need for relaxing, for letting go, for feeling able to speak freely and uninhibitedly. The counsellor sets the scene for this by being relaxed and accepting. His training has enabled him to get over the embarrassment of listening to a total stranger who wants to talk about intimate and personal matters. He does not press the client to talk about specific matters that have been decided in advance, but he is prepared to listen to whatever comes up without being shocked and without being judgemental. So often the problems that people bring to counsellors are concerned with things that