chapter  11
Listening, Dreaming, Sharing: On the Uses of the Analyst’s Inner Experiences
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I want to begin this chapter by relating a story concerning a long-running argument that I had with a distinguished colleague, someone whom I much admired for, among other things, his remarkable clinical skills. This story, in fact, involves a clinical moment, and farther on I’ll relate other clinical examples, one of which involves an uncontrolled, unthought-out enactment of mine that grew out of the sheer frustration that I was experiencing in trying to work with an angry, bitter, and profoundly stubborn man. This was an individual who announced at the beginning of treatment that he was simultaneously taking on his third wife and third analyst. And, he added, he had little expectation that either of these relationships would work out.