ABSTRACT
Each man has within a little boy wanting to be loved. In order to receive both the comfort and security provided by love, men have throughout their lives a variety of different relationships with other human beings-parents, children, colleagues, lovers, and friends. Many observers of social behavior have criticized men’s inabilities to relate warmly to other human beings (Farrell, 1974; Fasteau, 1974). Men are seen as being instrumental in the world, achievement oriented, working hard to achieve goals and get rewards. Women, on the other hand, are described as being expressive, relating to the world emotionally through their hearts (Lindsey, 1990). Miller (1983) estimated that one out of every eight men in the United States has a close male friend or buddy. Since 40 per cent of the marriages in the United States end in divorce, it is easy to put these two statistics together and get a picture of American men without close friendships, unable to achieve intimacy.
