ABSTRACT

People with borderline problems often experience intense anger and either feel they musn't express it (because it is wrong or dangerous) or are unable to contain it safely and tend to take it out on others verbally or physically. You may have a problem with anger for a number of reasons. You may carry a lot of anger inside you because of things that have happened in your life and how others have treated you. You may have been the victim of other people's anger or grown up witnessing others act out their anger uncontrollably. Many people with borderline problems or impulsive behaviour have been physically abused or witnessed violent anger as children. Either you learnt anger was wrong, so you suppress it and tend to take it out on yourself, or you didn't learn how to process angry feelings safely, so it builds up then explodes and tends to hurt others.