Once, when on his alms round, Gotama was repulsed by a householder with bitter words of abuse. 'Friend,' replied the Buddha, 'if a householder sets food before a beggar, but the beggar refuses to accept the food, to whom does the food then belong?' The man answered: 'To the householder, of course!' Gotama said: 'Then, if I refuse to accept your abuse and ill will, it returns to you, does it not? But I must go away the poorer because I have lost a friend' (M lxxv).