chapter  5
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RELATIONSHIPS: DETERMINING WHAT EXPECTATIONS ARE REALISTIC

Because our patients were abused and neglected as children , they did not develop fully and tend to have needs that cannot be satis fied . These aTe often expressed as demands by the false images. The deeper demands are usually kept hidden, except under special circumstances, which generally arise after the person is in some kind of relationship. While courting a friend or business partner or potential mate, these deprived people tend to show, by words and behavior, that they have much to give. Later their needs show. Their needs are so large they cannot be kepi hidden.