Divorce and Custody in a Changing Society
We start and end with efforts to put ourselves in the "skin of the child" -as advised by Anna Freud (personal communication to Albert J. Solnit, 1973). From the child's point of view, divorce would not be permitted to law or by custom. When there is a de juris or de facto divorce, however stormy or difficult the relationship between
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Throughout these vicissitudes of life for children of separating and divorcing parents there are the challenges of how to follow the principles of putting ourselves into the skin of the children and of using least detrimental alternatives within a dynamic framework of psychoanalytic child development knowledge.