HISTORY AND PSYCHOANALYSIS AS RELATIONSHIP
sofar as is humanly possible, suspend moral evaluation in favor of understanding.
While listening to the patient, Mr. E., the tune "Call me Mr. Wonderful" kept running through my mind. Reflecting on this, I realized that I wanted to withdraw from him. Shortly after, I became aware of the anger which the impulse to withdraw defended against. "Call me Mr. Wonderful" was a derivative of my hitherto unconscious desire that he acknowledge my importance to him. The anger was in response to my frustration at his failing to do so. It was this fantasy that first alerted me to one of his most important defensive maneuvers-keeping his distance and minimizing others' importance to him as a way of coming to terms with a number of unconscious dangers associated with intimacy and dependency.