chapter  8
Giving and Receiving: Gift Commerce, Shame, and Pride
Pages 20

I n drawing this book to a close, I turn my attention to shameand its counterpoint, pride, as part of the fabric of ordinarysocial interactions. I hope, by so doing, to stress a point heretofore neglected in my presentation, which is the notion that the shame family of emotions is by no means restricted to pathology but has a place in the current of ordinary emotional life. In looking at some of the day-to-day situations that promote pride and other feelings of well being or that provoke shame, I will examine various settings, including the two-person psychoanalytic situation. My emphasis here will be more on the predictable interpersonal elicitors of shame and pride and less on idiosyncratic interpretations of situations, sometimes suggestive of pathology, that elicit shame or self-satisfaction.