ABSTRACT
Conflict is inevitable in every close relationship. Some couples exhibit their conflict openly and directly while others attempt to deny and suppress or exhibit their conflict covertly. The question is not whether conflict exists in a couple, but how they manage conflict when it arises. Virtually every couple coming for treatment is in a state of conflict. They may be in conflict over a variety of issues, from expectations, needs, and wants; to money, sex, children, in-laws, and so on. The conflict may be expressed overtly or covertly and with varying degrees of emotional intensity. When the level of intensity is high and the couple lack the skills to successfully resolve the conflict, the first task of the therapist is to deescalate the feelings , to teach the couple conflict resolution skills, and to help them resolve their particular issues.
