ABSTRACT
In How to Talk to a Narcissist (Lachkar, 2008b), the passive-aggressive narcissist was presented as one who feels entitled, who feigns illness or helplessness to coerce others to perform his/her functions. e passive-aggressive borderline also coerces others to take on responsibilities, not so much because of a feeling of entitlement but because the passive-aggressive borderline is oppositional. ey are the “imaginary invalids.” Both the passive-aggressive narcissist and the passive-aggressive borderline share a grandiose self in that they expect others to be responsible and do things for them and pick up their covert, nonverbal messages. Both have a subversive way of evoking rage in their objects since they cannot express anger, which drives their partners and the people who know and work with them to frustration. Both are victims of traumatic childhoods, so they believe that the world owes them something and that people should take pity on them.
