ABSTRACT

Jim (withdrawing spouse) [to partner Mary] beginning a transforming enactment: I want you to give me a chance-I want you to stop hammering me and help me learn to love you better. I can learn to love you better-I want to do that. I just got so used to hidingbut I don’t want to do it anymore. Can you hear that? Mary: Well-it’s hard to take in-I’m not sure I believe you. But-you really want to learn to love me better?