ABSTRACT
Traditionally, sex therapy focused on intercourse and orgasm. The new mantra for healthy couple sexuality is desire, pleasure, and satisfaction. Intercourse and orgasm are positive, integral components of couple sexuality. However, focusing solely on intercourse and orgasm diverts you from the best sexual experiences. Couples who develop a satisfying sexuality enhance desire, share pleasure, savor eroticism, and feel energized, bonded, and satisfied. This is true whether or not the sexual experience was “great” and even when the sex did not involve mutuality. Of course, the most satisfying sexual encounters involve desire, arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction for both partners. But wise couples realize that even “okay” sexual experiences are worthwhile.
