This is part of the price we have been forced to pay for being effective and competent in the world. This can make consciousness-raising a particularly threatening and difficult experience for men. It is often easier for us to talk about our experience in an intellectualised way than actually to express how we are feeling. This can be yet another way in which we retain a certain distance from ourselves. We can envy the access that women seem to have to their histories and experience, and, particularly with the development of the women’s movement, the relationships they have with each other. This can make us more aware of lacks in our own lives.