Keeping Couples’ Dialogues on Track: Teaching Facilitation Skill
When the therapist is ready to introduce the Facilitation skill, check to see whether the couple has read the relevant chapter in the RE Client Manual (Guerney & Scuka, 2005) That may dictate whether the therapist provides a more thorough or a summary explanation of the skill. This chapter provides a model for a more thorough presentation. The therapist may also use it as a framework for devising a more abbreviated presentation. The purpose of the Facilitation skill may be explained in the following way:
The purpose of the Facilitation skill is to enable you to keep your dialogue on track when someone fails to be skillful and I’m not around to help you correct it. You also want to be able to do this in a way that reduces the risk of disrupting your dialogue. The reality is, when the two of you begin to dialogue on your own, mistakes are going to happen. So, it’s important that both of you recognize and accept that, and that you both are prepared to deal with mistakes effectively so that you can keep your dialogue on track and not allow it to get derailed. The Facilitation skill enables you to identify that a mistake has been made and get it corrected as expeditiously as possible so that you can continue with the dialogue, which, after all, is the point. You want to have your dialogue, not get hung up over the fact that someone has made a mistake. Having compassion toward one another when a mistake is made, by the way, is part of what makes this skill work.