ABSTRACT

Although the impact that clients can have on therapists is well-known, most work on the subject consists of dire warnings: mental health professionals are taught early on to be on their guard for burnout, compassion fatigue, and countertransference. However, while these professional hazards are very real, the scholarly focus on the negative potential of the client-counselor relationship often implies that no good can come of allowing oneself to get too close to a client's issues. This sentiment obscures what every therapist knows to be true: that the client-counselor relationship can also effect powerful positive transformations in a therapist's own life.

The Client Who Changed Me is Jeffrey Kottler and Jon Carlson's testimony to the significant and often life-changing ways in which therapists have been changed by their patients. Kottler and Carlson draw not only upon their own extensive experience - between them, they have more than fifty years in the field - but also upon lengthy interviews with dozens of the country's foremost therapists and theorists. This novel work presents readers with a truly unique perspective on the business of therapy: not merely how it appears externally, but how practitioners experience it internally. Although these stories paint a complex and multi-layered portrait of the client-counselor relationship, they all demonstrate the profound and unexpected rewards that the profession has to offer.

chapter Chapter 1|7 pages

From Clay to Fire

A Mythological Tale

chapter Chapter 2|8 pages

Jeffrey A. Kottler

About Last Night

chapter Chapter 3|11 pages

Jon Carlson

Self-Surgery to Remove the Transponder

chapter Chapter 4|9 pages

Violet Oaklander

The Kitten That Roared

chapter Chapter 5|10 pages

Frank Pittman

An Affair with an Alien

chapter Chapter 6|6 pages

Robert Neimeyer

Using Metaphors to Thaw a Frozen Woman

chapter Chapter 7|9 pages

Alan Marlatt

A New Name

chapter Chapter 8|5 pages

Albert Ellis

Learning from a Difficult Customer

chapter Chapter 9|13 pages

Bradford Keeney

A Family of Pirates

chapter Chapter 10|5 pages

John Gray

Little Things Make a Big Difference

chapter Chapter 11|9 pages

Steven Lankton

Clients Tune Me Up

chapter Chapter 12|9 pages

David E. Scharff

The Patient Who Taught Me to Be a Therapist

chapter Chapter 13|8 pages

Pat Love

The Broken Heart

chapter Chapter 14|4 pages

Laura Brown

A Spiritual Awakening

chapter Chapter 15|6 pages

Ken Hardy

Mister Black Doctor

chapter Chapter 16|10 pages

Michael Yapko

Caught in a Controversy

chapter Chapter 17|7 pages

John Murphy

A Language of Shrugs

chapter Chapter 18|6 pages

John Krumboltz

The Story of the Sun and the Wind

chapter Chapter 19|8 pages

Paul Pedersen

A Lesson in Humility

chapter Chapter 20|8 pages

Lenore Walker

Finding Justice with a Sledgehammer

chapter Chapter 21|9 pages

Barry Duncan

When Courage Is Enough

chapter Chapter 22|6 pages

Leigh McCullough

The Lady Cloaked in Fog

chapter Chapter 23|6 pages

Patricia Arredondo

The Client Who Inspired Her Therapist

chapter Chapter 24|8 pages

Howard Kirschenbaum

A Flood of Feeling

chapter Chapter 25|17 pages

How Clients Change their Therapists

with Mary Halunka