ABSTRACT
The changes and losses described so far are ones that may well be painfully obvious to you without being very apparent to people beyond your immediate famil)T. They are changes and losses that you have to cope with privately; with relatively little support. Other changes in your life, however, will be more noticeable to the outside world. Moving house, changing jobs, ending a relationship: these kinds of change are not specifically related to a bereavement and are not considered at all out of the ordinary As changes, they will be generally recognized, but as losses, which for you they are also, the significance of these events may be entirely lost on other people. For this reason, these 'ordinary' changes and losses can be particularly hard to bear.
