ABSTRACT

Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships draws on current research, a wide variety of clinical modalities, and thirty years of clinical work with stepfamily members to describe the special challenges stepfamilies face. The book presents the concept of "stepfamily architecture" and the five challenges it creates, and delineates three different levels of strategies—psychoeducation, building interpersonal skills, and intrapsychic work—for meeting those challenges in dozens of different settings.

The model is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, from a highly trained clinician who needs to know how and when to work on all three levels, to a school counselor or clergy person who may work on the first two levels but refer out for level three. It will also be useful to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel who will practice on the first level, but need to understand the other two to guide their work.

part 1|24 pages

Laying the Foundation

chapter 1|11 pages

A Map for Stepfamilies

part 2|102 pages

The Five Challenges

chapter 3|16 pages

The First Challenge

Insider/Outsider Positions are Intense and Stuck

chapter 4|22 pages

The Second Challenge

Children Struggle with Losses, Loyalty Binds, and Too Much Change

chapter 5|20 pages

The Third Challenge

Parenting Tasks Polarize the Adults

chapter 6|17 pages

The Fourth Challenge

Creating a New Family Culture

chapter 7|25 pages

The Fifth Challenge

Ex-Spouses Are Part of the Family

part 3|28 pages

Four “Diverse” Stepfamilies

chapter 9|3 pages

African American Stepfamilies

Strengths We Can Learn From

chapter 11|9 pages

New Wrinkles

Later Life Cycle Stepfamilies

part 4|16 pages

Stepfamilies Over Time

chapter 12|5 pages

The Stepfamily Cycle

Normal Stages of Stepfamily Development

part 5|22 pages

Helping Stepfamilies Thrive

chapter 14|4 pages

Level I

A Toolbox for Psychoeducation

chapter 15|10 pages

Level II

A Toolbox for Interpersonal Skills

chapter 16|6 pages

Level III

A Toolbox for Intrapsychic Work

part 6|5 pages

Becoming a Stepfamily Is a Process, Not an Event

chapter 17|2 pages

Working with Stepfamily Members Over Time

An Overview

chapter 18|1 pages

Conclusion