ABSTRACT
Our typical response to life challenges is to assume they are the result of unique circumstances, personality flaws, or personal inadequacies. Thus, we seek to reduce the resulting personal stresses by using behaviors that worked for us in the past. When familiar behaviors fail to change our circumstance positively, we often change our relationships with significant others or seek new employment. If these changes prove inadequate, we may blame others, seek spiritual help, rely on counseling, or engage in such self-destructive behaviors as overeating or drugs. We assume there is something wrong that needs to be fixed…and that once we fix it, all will be better. When our attempts to find resolution fail to address the underlying issues, we say “this is how life is.”
