ABSTRACT
In the reflection section, I distinguish between the two ethical notions of ‘integration’ and ‘integrity’, which, at first glance at their linguistic forms, seem similar. I address marriage as a matter beyond the difference and cooperation between the masculine and feminine, men and women, and instead as that established between two distinct individuals. The core issue for Chinese marriage is the conflict between individual wills and collective requirements that are deeply rooted in traditional Chinese values and government interventions. I argue that a new approach to marriage is to find integrity for both partners, which means that both spouses can retain their self-consistency and boundaries, have amicable attitudes to each other, face their differences and conflicts and acknowledge the importance of them for a relationship. In return, such marriages could foster integrity in extreme circumstances and encourage individuation.
