ABSTRACT
The new sexual mantra is desire/pleasure/eroticism/satisfaction with desire as the most important dimension. Satisfaction is second in importance, with pleasure and eroticism integral to healthy couple sexuality. Unfortunately, the sex field has multiple splits—between men and women, between foreplay and intercourse, between intimacy and eroticism, between orgasm and pleasuring, between illicitness and bonding. Healthy couple sexuality is an integration of attitudes, behavior, and feelings which accepts the multiple roles, meanings, and outcomes of sexuality. Each dimension of the new sexual mantra has value, but is best when integrated and valued by both partners. The whole is more than its component parts. The new mantra provides a coherent, comprehensive approach to sexuality for the woman, man, and couple.
