ABSTRACT

A valuable insight is that most couples find that their sexual style is different than their relational style. For most couples, the Best Friend relational style is the best fit. However, the Best Friend sexual style is not a good fit for most couples. There is so much closeness that the partners de-eroticize each other and their relationship. The best sexual style for most couples is the Complementary couple sexual style. This sexual style involves each partner maintaining their sexual autonomy (sexual voice) while being an intimate sexual team who integrate intimacy and eroticism. This chapter describes how to choose the couple sexual style which is the best fit for the couple’s attitudes, behaviors, emotions, and values. Then play to the strengths of their chosen sexual style while being aware of “traps”, so sexual desire remains strong and resilient.