Personal relationships have seldom seemed as complex and troubled as they are now. The rate of divorce and family break-up has steadily increased. Although various factors play a part in these issues, The Dying Family and The Loss of Intimate Relationships examines the major role played by the failure of early relationships.
The book focuses on core problems, ranging from ignorance or denial of the importance of early attachment, to the effects of social media. Divided into three parts, the first describes how the capacity to relate evolves from the mother-child dyad via the parental couple and family life. The second looks at the neurological, psychological and political threats to healthy development. In part three, the negative consequences for relationships are examined, including the issue privacy, freedom of speech and religious tolerance. Questioning the impact of contemporary sexual politics on the traditional family unit, the book suggests a taboo has arisen around the subject.
Written in an honest and inquisitive style by a vastly experienced psychoanalytic practitioner and former teacher, The Dying Family and The Loss of Intimate Relationships will be of great interest to any researcher or professional working in the area of family dynamics.
Part I: The Heart of the Matter
- Life is made of Relationship
- Mothering: The Original Matrix
- The Outer and Inner Couple
- Children, Adults and Oedipus
- Family, The Birthplace and Nursery of Relationships
- What Does It Mean to Be a Girl or Boy?
- What Does It Mean to Be a Woman or Man?
- Intimacy, Promiscuity and Socialising
- The Emotional Basis of Thinking
- Relationship as the Key to Morality and Ethics
Part II: The Threats
- Romance, Science and the Left-brain Takeover
- The State Invasion of Family Life and Relationships
- The Government Assault on Marriage
- Gender Politics and Sexual Radicalisation
- Social Media: Disconnected Connections
- The Erosion of Relationship by Sadomasochism
Part III: The Consequences
- Misogyny, Harassment and Rape
- The Neglect, Maltreatment and Abuse of Children
- The Denial of Neglect and Emotional Disturbance in Children
- The Escalation of Addiction
- Institutionalisation of Prejudice
- Loss of Civil Liberties and Infringement of Human Rights
- Loss of Privacy and Personal Space
- The Rise of Religious Intolerance
- The Medical and Emotional Cost of Relationship Failure
- The Shadow of the Police state on personal relationships
Epilogue: Utopia or Survival?