ABSTRACT
The minister was contacted by the Social Case Worker to see if he could include the girl in parish youth activities. He took what the social worker considered to be a judgmental attitude to the grandmother. The solution lay in the minister's ability to get the woman to face her feelings about her (dead) husband. The minister by trying to articulate her real feelings could begin the necessary Grief work to release tension and avert the breakdown which would otherwise probably take place. Judgmental is, in one sense of the word, to make a particular kind of judgment of someone's behaviour namely to condemn that behaviour as sinful or guilty. Acceptance by itself is not a term strong enough to avoid being misleading, for it can be far too passive in its overtones. The judgmental would attempt to impose stereotypes on empirical fact and a number of these stereotypes come readily to mind.
