ABSTRACT
People with Asperger's are often reluctant to fly the nest: things do not work out right somehow, and the default position is to stay at home. The family then moves into unknown territory for which there is no model, no plan. Parents find this hard to deal with, usually continuing to do things for the person as though he were still a child, sometimes willingly, sometimes with resentment. The people learns to manage money, cook, wash up, do the washing, deal with the hangover and get ourselves to where we are meant to be. Every family has its own standards around this process, of course, and different cultures may present a range of different expectations, but generally the process is completed roughly as expected, unless the child has Asperger's syndrome. Families need to be reassured that the risks are acceptable, of course, and there is no better proof than being able to watch things develop into stability.
