ABSTRACT
This chapter adapts the processes and practices towards co-evolving new rituals and ceremonies with people who have experienced loss. It explores ways of marking their loss, expressing their grief, and affirming their life and relationships with the deceased that are meaningful and consonant with the values of their family, community, cultures, and religions. The chapter introduces co-memorating to the practice of a team working with children with life-threatening illness after several unsuccessful attempts to set up staff "support groups" at their request. The process of co-memorating therefore involves re-membering the past into the present so that a context can be created from which to act towards the future. This context of interwoven memories and narratives is essential to the identity and integrity of the family, community, and individual. In this way our memories and stories from different contexts become our "selves", in-forming versions of who we were, who we are, and who we might become.
