ABSTRACT
In this chapter, the author presents the case study of the man he call Harry feels that he kills people when he speaks, yet nothing seems to change. Harry is a good Meltzer patient because he doesn't want to talk about what's right in his life, just about the problem. Harry's predicament was different from the patient in Coming through the Whirlwind. Growth of capacity to come through the impact of each other's states and feelings is a crucial part of development. D. W. Winnicott writes that the other surviving the subject's destructive force adds to the realness of reality. Reality is all the more real for surviving the backdrop of boundless destructive fantasy. One practices a sequence of undergoing damage and death and coming through. Bringing this sequence to life and letting it develop more fully is part of what therapy is about.
