ABSTRACT
At the start of adolescence, the young person is confronted with major demands which will test out his or her sense of self. Adolescence itself is a time of growth and of turmoil, confusions and great vulnerability. In order to continue developing their identity, adolescents need to separate from their families. Entering the grown-up world confronts the adolescent with a profound sense of inadequacy as growing up requires actual achievement, such as passing exams, establishing sexual and emotional relationships, becoming able to take responsibilities for oneself and those that one loves, often in the context of unbearably intense feelings. This chapter looks at the psychotherapy of two adolescents, namely: Julian and Thomas. For them the struggle to become 'men' seemed an impossible and frightening task. The chapter illustrates some of their deepest anxieties about growing up, and being able to emulate their father and their siblings.
