ABSTRACT
The Extreme Abuse Survey asked about particular reported abuses, and found many to be common to survivors all over the world. Survivors bear the unbearable through dissociation, segmentation of their brains into many parts. But this dissociation is exploited by abusers to control those brains, piece by piece. They struggle when they become aware of what they have gone through and might still be going through. Therapists, kind spouses, and support people struggle with the knowledge of such unbearable things. People in the "developed" countries close their eyes when genocides happen in the "less developed" countries. The UN would not send enough troops to save Rwanda, and would not intervene in Syria. The leaders of western "democracies" frame refugees as illegal immigrants and invaders of their people's safety and security, so that very few people recognize that these unfortunate people could be us.
