ABSTRACT
As the lifegiver is incorporated into the self, a division and a repudiation of the self's own nature occurs, resulting in an anti-relational position being taken. The lifegiver comes into being through being chosen, a little as friendship comes into being through two people turning towards each other. The narcissistic person is someone who has turned against the lifegiver, and this occurs early in infancy. At the very early stage, the mother is the source of food, drink, and shelter to the infant, and the infant is totally dependent upon her. The infant's close bonding with the mother is well described by Frances Tustin. When a separation or disruption occurs, the infant may respond by turning away from the mother and turning in upon itself. Human beings have always created myths about origins-cosmogonies. People may smile patronizingly at some of the cosmogonies of primitive peoples, but the big bang theory is also a cosmogony.
