ABSTRACT
The woman was with her three-year-old son, and while they were having tea together, “Derek” punched the woman unconscious and then raped her in front of her son. A middle-aged man rushes into a hotel bar where he is meeting “Dance Ticket”. The idee fixe of the perfect partner is fraught with problems and usually indicates someone who has idealised a parental figure and who is blindly and impulsively looking for a similar match. But the idealisation often covers up underlying conflicts that cannot be acknowledged, including, at its most extreme, hatred. All internet daters have an agenda of some kind. For internet entrepreneurs, this is the perfect customer because they can be sure they will return for more. Some internet daters are only looking for a sexual partner. The internet provides the perfect tabula rasa for daters to search for their fantasy partner and to enact the powerful and often damaging relationships of their past.
