ABSTRACT
Example A teacher does the exercise aft er a confl ict with her teenage daughter. While doing the exercise it becomes clear that it is much harder for her to deal with confl icts at home than when she is in the fi eld working with troubled teens. She is also aware that the same themes make it hard for her to mentalize both at work and in her private life. She becomes conscious of the themes she should be aware of and focus on, and what she can bring from her work that she can also use at home. She is also aware that the part of mentalization psychology that states again and again that mentalizing is most diffi cult in relations with those that we have strong feelings for, applies very much to her own life.
