ABSTRACT
This chapter explores love through the principle that underlies all of the various manifestations of love: that is, the self in relation to another, a not-self. A major principle that permeates Jung's psychotherapeutic approach, and therefore the theoretical concepts that underpin it, is the teleological principle. Fordham has described a model of the self that might explain the dynamic pattern in the twinship observed by Piontelli between tender, shared relatedness on the one hand and separate individual behaviour on the other. In Fordham's model, the self oscillates rhythmically between states of deintegration and reintegration, a dynamic pattern observable from infancy throughout life. Further evidence from studies of neonates show that the foundation of shared affects and emotions is located very early, and certainly pre-verbally. The experience of paradox derives from the basic paradigm of simultaneous contradiction and inclusion. This has to do with the nature of being human, where being a self and the knowledge of self co-exist.
