ABSTRACT
In order to understand what our survival strategies look like and why they have developed as they have, we will take a look at how we as infants formed attachments to other people. The ability to form attachments is natural to human beings. Our DNA ensures that a newborn child, from the first day of its life, attempts to contact the surrounding world in order to survive. We cannot change an unhappy childhood, but sharing reflections on our childhood experiences with our partner or significant other can, in our adult lives, create new understandings. Such insights can be part and parcel of how we change, both separately and together. Sharing, reflecting, and making sense of memories are keys to a happier life for us as adults. The concept of a secure and an insecure base arises from the fact that all children from infancy need a secure base from which to explore life.
