ABSTRACT
In this chapter, the authors talks about the pregnancy and the delivery, about any separations from the parents and other caregivers and about health problems and hospitalisations. If a child finds his mother lifeless in the bathtub in blood-red water and later hears the father tell the family that the mother passed away peacefully in her sleep after a stroke, the child faces a dilemma. Grown children and their parents have told us that it felt very liberating when the unsaid was put into words. The clients are encouraged to contact the parents or others who knew them when they were infants or children, to hear what they might remember from that time. In therapy, the therapist asks the client to listen while the therapist tells what happened, and what the therapist thinks the experience must have been like for the client at such a young age.
