ABSTRACT
Time as an external phenomenon—chronological time—is often contrasted theoretically with psychological or subjective time: behind this is the idea that there exist two or more different types of time. Making time is a depressive-position activity, necessitating acknowledgement of the other’s separateness and significance to oneself and of one’s role in the existence and well-being of the other person. To make time is, ultimately, an act of love. There are expressions of killing time that are not necessarily symptoms of borderline states but that also signify disavowal of object need. The borderline personality kills time to keep apart from objects. Time is omnipresent and a central human preoccupation. Varying definitions of time arise as a consequence of cultural and psychological influences reflecting subjective and social perspectives. Narcissism spares him the pains of needing, loving, and hating, even if the price may be lifelong suffering.
