ABSTRACT

The Disenfranchised: Stories of Life and Grief When an Ex-Spouse Dies offers an unprecedented anthology of never-before-published, first-person life histories by ex-spouses whose grief has endured as disenfranchised: socially unacknowledged, untold, and unrecognised. Each story of disenfranchised grief is fiercely honest and courageously made public. This anthology has no parallels in current texts, academic literature or mainstream publications. Contributors present personal histories, revealing that the dimensions of disenfranchised grief are as individual as the writers who have endured this neglected aspect of grief and bereavement. In many narratives, the healing power of their creative processes through art and poetry is further revealed. The anthology is compiled and edited by Peggy Sapphire, MS (Guidance and Counseling), a writer living in Vermont. Over the span of five years, through phone conversations and written communications, Ms. Sapphire established trusting relationships with the contributors, who, though choosing to submit their work, often struggled with reluctance, even dread, at revisiting previously private events in their lives and finally committing their stories to paper, and ultimately to publication. Each narrative is accompanied by a clinical commentary, written by Shirley Scott, MS, certified Thanatologist, which provides readers, whether academic, practitioner, student, or lay, with reflections on the issues and patterns of disenfranchised grief, as reflected by each narrative. Included in each commentary are bibliographic references for further and advanced study. The contributors represent an extraordinary range of professional achievements and academic credentials--well-published writers, poets, working artists, educators, academics, mental health practitioners, and health professionals.

chapter |2 pages

Introduction

part |2 pages

Section 1 Moving Toward Forgiveness

chapter 1|8 pages

Harold

chapter 2|14 pages

Rubber Man

chapter 3|10 pages

Selected Slides

chapter 4|8 pages

Never Given a Name

part |2 pages

Section 2 “He’s Dead and I’m Not”

chapter 5|10 pages

When Pawpaw’s Spearmint Went to Heaven

chapter 6|8 pages

The Absence of

chapter 7|8 pages

He’s Dead and I’m Not

chapter 8|4 pages

Missing You

chapter 9|10 pages

The Ride

part |2 pages

Section 3 “. . . A Change of Worlds . . .”

chapter 10|14 pages

Barking at the Knocks

chapter 11|6 pages

Un-grieving a Death

chapter 12|14 pages

Chronic and Acute

chapter 14|6 pages

Then, a Deep Silence

part |2 pages

Section 4 As the Dust Settles

chapter 15|10 pages

Geography of a Marriage

chapter 16|14 pages

Jake

chapter 17|10 pages

How I Survived

chapter 18|8 pages

Postmortem

chapter 19|8 pages

Ex-humation: Digging Up the Past