ABSTRACT

This book looks at the trauma suffered by those in relationships with narcissists, covering topics such as surviving a cult, dysfunctional families, political dysfunction, and imbalances of power in places of work and education.

This new volume by author and psychoanalyst Daniel Shaw revisits themes from his first book, Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation. Shaw offers further reflections on the character and behavior of the traumatizing narcissist, the impact such persons have on those they abuse and exploit and the specific ways in which they instill shame and fear in those they seek to control. In addition, this volume explores, with detailed clinical material, many of the challenges mental health professionals face in finding effective ways of helping those who have suffered narcissistic abuse. From within a trauma informed, relational psychoanalytic perspective, Shaw explores themes of attachment to internalized perpetrators, self-alienation, internalized aggression, and loss of faith in the value and meaning of being alive.

This book will be especially illuminating and rewarding for mental health professionals engaged in helping patients heal and recover from complex relational trauma, and equally valuable to those individuals who have struggled with the tenacious, often crippling shame and fear that can be the result of relational trauma.

chapter Chapter 1|15 pages

Introduction

chapter Chapter 2|23 pages

A prison of shame and fear

Understanding the role of shame in cult indoctrination and recovery

chapter Chapter 3|17 pages

Make someone happy

Reflections on giving and receiving in love and psychoanalysis 1

chapter Chapter 4|16 pages

Double binds, unhealing wounds 1

chapter Chapter 6|15 pages

Authoritarianism and the cultic dynamic

Traumatic narcissism in Trump's America 1

chapter Chapter 7|11 pages

Psychoanalysis, meet religion

And this time, get it right 1

chapter Chapter 8|13 pages

The problem of self-alienation