ABSTRACT

This book updates the Oedipus complex for a contemporary audience in the light of social and cultural changes and explores its implications for psychoanalytic treatment and our understanding of queer families.

Growing evidence during the past few decades indicates that children who grow up in same-sex families adapt well. These findings, which do not conform to the predictions of Oedipal theory, expose the theory’s biases, and call for reexamination of its premises. This book based on ground-breaking research and pursues a methodical investigation of the characteristics of the same-sex families that defy the expectations of Oedipal theory. Furnished with vivid illustrations, it invites the reader to engage actively in the interpretive effort and presents a diverse and complex story about kinship, opening a window onto a rich world of infantile phantasies and parents’ psychological conflicts, at the fascinating intersection of the personal and the social.

Oedipal Experiences in Same-Sex Families will appeal to psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, educators and policymakers, same-sex parents, and parents who were assisted by gamete donation.

chapter |35 pages

Introduction

A bridge between two islands: psychoanalytic thinking and the research field

part I|67 pages

What does Oedipal development have to do with the parents' sex, anyway?

chapter Chapter one|36 pages

“I want to marry you, Mommy”

On Oedipal configurations in same-sex families

chapter Chapter two|29 pages

Oedipal configurations

Mutual illumination of theory and research findings

part II|74 pages

What does genetics have to do with kinship, anyway?

chapter Chapter three|11 pages

On biological affiliation and kinship

chapter Chapter four|27 pages

A new hierarchy

Asymmetry between the birth mother and social mother in lesbian couples

chapter Chapter five|14 pages

Back to the closet

The issue of the child's genetic origin among gay fathers

chapter Chapter six|7 pages

The dual role of the extended family

chapter Chapter seven|13 pages

The power of interpellation

Kinship conceptualization among same-sex parents and their children

part III|79 pages

What does procreation have to do with parental coitus, anyway?

chapter Chapter eight|45 pages

Between longing and dread

Representations of gamete donors and surrogates in the children's inner-worlds

chapter Chapter nine|32 pages

Gamete donation in light of the primal scene

The parental challenge of integrating the donor's imago

part IV|27 pages

Afterword

chapter Chapter ten|5 pages

Oedipus for everyone?

Biases in the Oedipal model: their roots and how to overcome them

chapter Chapter eleven|9 pages

How to work with same-sex families?

chapter |11 pages

Coda

The Kids Are All Right: A psychoanalytic reading in Lisa Cholodenko's film