ABSTRACT
In the summer of 2011, my wife and I separated after 29 years of marriage. Our decision had countless points of origin and evolved imperceptibly and precipi-tously, emerging from a process that was both deeply considered and selectively inattended, one that was both shared and unilateral. It was a choice defined by sorrow and hope. The separation has been an experience my wife and I have gone through together and apart, in ways that reflect the dynamics of our marriage, while also engaging aspects of ourselves that have been unanticipated and that feel stunningly new. Our separation will culminate in divorce.
