ABSTRACT
In the last chapter we pointed out how Tom's mother felt fearful and angry when she lost him, but was quickly able to accept her feelings. She could then nurture Tom by comforting and consoling him when she reached him. We also considered the role which feelings play in responses to loss, and their function in ensuring care and comfort in young humans and, indeed, in young mammals. The response to loss, of course, becomes more complex and differentiated as we grow and develop; but some very basic reactions
Go back into the past, near or distant, and think of a time in your life which was difficult for you. Try to remember the event itself, think about that time, ponder on what was happening then and see if you can recall how other people responded to you. You will remember things that were said as well as attitudes which you sensed. Try to categorise these into responses which were helpful or unhelpful.
