ABSTRACT
In the last chapter we described how complicated grief arises. Complicated grief may be difficult to work with and the counsellor needs to have developed self-knowledge and have integrated the basic counselling attitudes outlined in chapter 2, so that when sudden difficulties with acceptance, empathy and congruence occur they are recognised as uncharacteristic. If a counsellor realises that she is unexpectedly angry, puzzled, disbelieving or judgemental, then this will lead her to reflect. Is she picking up the client's difficulties with anger and guilt? Or has the client's material sparked off feelings associated with unresolved losses of her own? In chapter 15 we consider how a supervisor can help a counsellor handle situations where her grief is interfering with her work as a counsellor.
