ABSTRACT
For this study, by reward we will mean a bribe or largesse. By punishment we will mean hitting, spanking, scolding, humiliating, depriving, isolating, grounding, threatening, and anything done in anger.
What aspects of reward and punishment (as described above) when used on children, can be called a “flaw?” (Page 21, line 9, ff.)
Even though reward and punishment often work, what are some undesirable side effects resulting from their use? (Page 21, line 6.)
Consider this statement: “In each case we have a superior bossing an inferior.” (Page 22, line 10). What other kind of relationship is possible between parent and child? (A democratic, friendly relationship between equals. See point 5 a-h, in Section P-19, Mutual Respect.)
Name some of the examples of punishment that are best avoided by parents. (Page 22, line 14, ff.)
Do you argue with any of the authors’ “additional points” about reward and punishment? (In heavy black type, pages 22–24.) (Individuals consider and use notes page. Group members discuss together.)
What capacity in the child do reward and punishment not help to develop? (Inner controls for good behavior. Page 23, line 9 from bottom.)
According to the authors, what should be the parents’ primary, overriding goal? (Help the child become cooperative.) (Page 23, line 7 from bottom.)
What negative qualities in your child are you trying not to arouse? (Humiliation, alienation, or hostility. Page 25, line 16, from bottom, ff.)
How do Adlerian parents see problems? (As opportunities they can use to strengthen relationships. Page 25, line 11 from bottom.)
What else can we look for in negative behavior that can help our parenting? (Page 25, line 7, ff. from bottom. Example: line 4 from bottom.)
What effect does our continual anger have? (Page 25, line 5 from bottom.)
What is a win/win statement? (Page 26, line 2.) How did this one help? (Page 26, line 4 to end of paragraph.)
What do the authors see as the best way to correct misbehavior and yet maintain good relations with your child? (The method called “logical and natural consequences.” Page 26, line 4, from bottom.)
