ABSTRACT
Being on the receiving end of criticism (even if it wellintentioned) can touch a raw nerve or leave you feeling vulnerable. As we have argued in other chapters of this book, it is not the situation itself (in this case, being criticized) that determines how you feel, but how you think about the situation or criticism. For example,
A = activating event-your friend says to you that you can be spiteful at times
B = beliefs and thoughts-‘She shouldn’t say that about me. She’s supposed to be my friend! It’s like she’s stabbed me in the back. I’ve been a good friend to her. What did I do to deserve this?’
