ABSTRACT
When an individual ends an intimate relationship, he or she must provide an account of the breakup to members of his or her social network, including work associates, family, and friends. As indicated in chapter 8, research revealed that these accounts tend to place the onus of responsibility on one's partner for the breakdown of the relationship (Cody, 1982; Harvey, & Weber, et al., 1986). People tend to attribute blame to others, absolving themselves of responsibility. This system of allocating blame buttresses self-esteem, helps to save face, and presents a positive image to eligible future partners (Harvey, Weber, et al., 1986). Individuals also develop such accounts to maintain a sense of control over their environment, to aid in emotional purging, and as a reaction to unfinished business (Harvey, Orbuch, & Weber, et al., 1992).
