ABSTRACT

"I’m broken." When a boy or man says this, he is expressing deep alienation from himself and the world. Something’s wrong, and he usually cannot begin to explain why. What brings boys and men into psychotherapy or analysis?

Many of them struggle with access to their inner worlds. Experiences of alienation can lead to destructive and self-destructive behaviors, including addiction and violence. This book explores the reasons for this and considers why boys and men seek professional help. How do psychotherapists and analysts engage them when they often protest that they want to be left alone?

Looking at the male psyche from boyhood through adolescence and into adulthood, Male Alienation at the Crossroads of Identity, Culture and Cyberspace provides examples from clinical practice, current events, art, and literature that show what happens when alienation is severe and leads boys and men to discharge their emotional problems in the outside world. The book examines compulsive internet use, flawed concepts of masculinity, difficulties with mutually intimate relationships, trouble showing emotions, and identity issues, as well as the role of fathers, with a focus on the types of fathers that many boys and men describe as being difficult. Tyminski provides various practical ideas about working with boys and men to encourage them to be open to their inner worlds, and emphasizes a contrast between having meaningful contacts or having a merely transactional approach to relating.

Male Alienation at the Crossroads of Identity, Culture and Cyberspace will be essential reading for Jungian analysts, psychotherapists, and psychoanalysts as well as a wide range of other professionals who work with men and boys.

chapter 1|19 pages

The inner world and male alienation

Beware this house

chapter 2|22 pages

Online antics

Caught in the web

chapter 3|19 pages

Narcissus in the locker room

Sexuality and gender

chapter 4|20 pages

Breaking it

At a loss for words

chapter 5|23 pages

Alienation and identity

Immigration, race, and ethnicity

chapter 6|22 pages

Alienated monsters cut loose

chapter 7|19 pages

Accidents that become catastrophes

chapter 8|26 pages

What our fathers give us

chapter 9|27 pages

I’m broken

chapter 10|20 pages

Revealing a boy